Help for Family Relationships

God has a great plan for families, but it takes intentionality, discipline, and frankly a lot of hard work. If you’re ready to experience God’s best for you and your family, these resources can help you get there.

Our recommendation is to choose one place to start. Most of us could probably work on almost all of these at once but that would be overwhelming. Pray about the best place to start and go for it. If you have questions or need support along the way, please feel free to contact one of the pastors on staff. We’re here for you.  


Message Series

Whether you’re a sibling, spouse, or child, parent, cousin, grandparent or in-law, you can be a part of your home renovation. Listen to this series from January 2016 and discover that all it takes is the right tools to make change happen in your family.


Whether you’re a sibling, spouse, or child, parent, cousin, grandparent or in-law, you can be a part of your home renovation. Listen to this series from January 2016 and discover that all it takes is the right tools to make change happen in your family.

This message series from August 2013 examines the different relationship roles in the family and what the Bible says about each. 


This message series from August 2013 examines the different relationship roles in the family and what the Bible says about each. 


Healthy Relationships

Regardless of which family relationships you have, it takes work to make them healthy and strong. The resources below will supply you with wisdom, insight and ideas for ways to strengthen your family relationships. Remember that you are the only one you can change. Make it personal and commit to being who God wants you to be in your family. 

Scriptures: 

Books: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, books for couples, children and singles

Website: www.5lovelanguages.com, online survey to help you discover the love language for you and others around you. 

Book: Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter  Scazzero


CONFLICT

No family is immune to conflict. And no matter how strong a relationship might be, conflict has a way of weakening relationships and damaging people. Conflict has many causes... unmet expectations, careless words, selfishness or sinfulness. Unresolved conflict can sow seeds of bitterness, resentment, and anger. Regardless of the cause, families must learn how to deal with conflict in a health way that restores relationships. These resources can help you deal with conflict within your family. 

Scripture:

  • Matthew 5:9
  • Matthew 5:38-48
  • Matthew 18:15-35
  • Romans 12:9-21

Book: Resolving Everyday Conflict by Ken Sande and Kevin Johnson


Singleness

Singleness brings its own set of struggles and challenges, especially in a culture that idolizes romance and sexuality. But the Bible speaks of singleness as a blessing, not a curse. When someone discovers contentment in the single life, they are free to serve God in unique and profound ways. These Scriptures and resources can help you uncover God’s purpose and perspective of the single life. 

Scripture:

Book: I Don’t Wait Anymore by Grace Thornton

Blog: www.gracefortheroad.com,  Grace Thonton


MARRIAGE

Marriage can be the source of life’s greatest pleasures and greatest pains. The lifelong experience of two people becoming one often results in frustration, disappointment, discouragement, and fear. But marriage was God’s idea (really, it was!), so God knows what it takes to experience the best He has to offer in marriage. These Scriptures and resources can help you begin the journey toward healthiness, healing or hope in your marriage.

Scripture:

Book: The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick, A 40-day devotional guide that dares you to show love to your spouse each day. 

Website: www.lovedaretest.com,  Marriage Assessment to see the strengths and growth areas of your marriage

Blog: www.fiercemarriage.com, Marriage blog with resources about relationships, sex, money, and more. 

Book: His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley, Jr. 


Parenting

The family is God’s plan A for passing on faith to future generations. Parents always have been and always will be the primary influence on their children. This task of utmost importance is also incredibly difficult. It takes discipline, patience, intentionality, patience, selflessness, and… patience. These resources can help you make a plan to experience God’s best in raising your children. 

Scriptures: 

Website:  www.theparentcue.org, Parenting blog that aligns with the curriculum used in BP Kids every Sunday. This blog provides helpful resources, ideas, and challenges for busy parents to make the most of their time with their kids.

Book: Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson

Book: Parenting Beyond Your Capacity by Reggie Joyner and Carey Nieuwhof

Book: Family iD-Intentional Direction by Greg Gunn and Craig Groeschel